Reginaldo Osnildo
Explore why what seems obvious to you might not be clear to others. Learn how different experiences shape perceptions and improve your communication.
You’ve probably thought at some point, “Why don’t they just get it? It’s so obvious!” Whether it’s explaining a simple task at work or a household routine at home, we often assume that what’s clear to us is equally clear to others. But here’s the truth: the obvious is subjective.
What’s painfully clear to one person can be confusing—or even invisible—to someone else. Why? Because we all bring our own experiences, knowledge, and emotions into every interaction. Let’s unpack why the “obvious” isn’t always as obvious as we think, and how understanding this can revolutionize the way we communicate.
The Relativity of the ‘Obvious’
Before diving in, here’s something important to remember: our perceptions are shaped by our experiences. What’s routine for you might be entirely unfamiliar to someone else.
Here are a few examples:
- Workplace Confusion: A tech expert might find troubleshooting a software issue second nature, but someone from a non-technical background might feel completely lost.
- Cultural Nuances: In some cultures, it’s obvious that you remove your shoes before entering a home. In others, it’s not a given at all.
- Generational Gaps: Younger people may find social media jargon like “DM me” obvious, but older generations might need a full explanation.
The “obvious” is filtered through personal, cultural, and contextual lenses.
Why Assumptions Fail Us
One of the biggest communication mistakes is assuming that everyone else thinks like we do. This assumption can lead to misunderstandings and frustration on both sides.
Here’s why assumptions fall short:
- Knowledge Gaps: People have different levels of expertise and familiarity with a subject.
- Emotional States: Stress or distraction can block understanding, even of simple concepts.
- Cultural Contexts: Words, gestures, or actions can have vastly different meanings across cultures.
By recognizing these barriers, you can approach conversations with more patience and clarity.
How to Bridge the Gap
So, how do you make the “obvious” clear without sounding condescending or frustrated? Here are some practical strategies:
1. Ask Questions First
Instead of jumping into explanations, start with a question like, “Have you come across this before?” or “What’s your take on this?” This helps you gauge the other person’s level of understanding.
2. Clarify Without Overloading
Keep your explanations simple and to the point. Avoid using jargon unless you’re sure the other person knows it.
3. Use Analogies
Analogies are a powerful tool for making complex or unfamiliar ideas relatable. For example, explaining how a website works can be compared to the layout of a storefront.
4. Check for Understanding
After explaining, ask, “Does that make sense?” or “Would you like me to go over anything again?” This ensures clarity without assuming anything.
5. Be Empathetic
Recognize that not understanding something isn’t a reflection of intelligence—it’s simply a matter of perspective. Empathy can make your delivery more constructive.
The Role of Perception in Communication
Understanding how people perceive information is key to bridging communication gaps. Here’s how perception plays a role:
- Cultural Influence: What seems polite in one culture may seem overly formal—or even rude—in another.
- Emotional Impact: Someone feeling anxious or overwhelmed might interpret a simple question as criticism.
- Past Experiences: If someone had a negative encounter related to the topic, their perception might be clouded by that memory.
By being aware of these factors, you can tailor your message to resonate better with your audience.
Practical Example: At Work
Imagine you’re explaining a new software tool to a colleague:
- Wrong Approach: “It’s simple, just click the dropdown and select the option.”
- Right Approach: “To find the feature you need, click on the dropdown menu in the top-right corner. Let me know if you’d like me to walk you through it.”
See the difference? The second approach is specific, clear, and doesn’t assume prior knowledge.
Why This Matters
When we take the time to understand why others might not see what’s obvious to us, we become more effective communicators. Instead of frustration, we foster connection. Instead of misunderstandings, we create clarity.
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Your Next Step
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Let’s bridge the gap together—one conversation at a time!